The secrets of male sexual psychology, the causes of sexual dreams, and the correct understanding of masturbation.

[The Secrets of Men’s Sexual Psychology] (1) Almost everyone masturbates, regardless of age, marital status or social status.

(2) Although having sexual fantasies may be nice, they are often disappointing when it comes to actually doing them.

In this situation, expectation is better than reality.

The best sex life is built on reality, genuine love, and sincere communication.

Honesty in love is the guarantee of a healthy sex life.

(3) All men experience sexual anxiety at some point in their lives, and this anxiety naturally increases with age.

Abnormalities in the brain or heart can affect sexual life.

A woman who fails to recognize this can put enormous pressure on a man.

However, when the heart and brain are functioning in a good loving relationship, they can always overcome any sexual challenge.

(4) Most men and women keep each other's sexual secrets when they are together.

Typically, in most interpersonal relationships, sexual development occurs much faster than the revelation of emotions.

Therefore, in those relationships that last, sexual patterns often form before there is even a chance to discuss sexual preferences.

Once sexual patterns are established, it becomes more difficult to discuss changes because people are sensitive to each other's sexual vulnerabilities.

There is a simple solution to all the problems arising from these sexual secrets: open communication. Spending time and energy discussing deep emotional and sexual issues will be immensely beneficial and may even lead to loving exchanges.

[Sexual Dreams] Sexual dreams refer to having sexual intercourse with the opposite sex while sleeping. The vast majority of these dreams result in orgasm, and are more common in men than women.

Generally speaking, male sexual dreams are often accompanied by ejaculation, which is what we call nocturnal emission.

Dream lovers are mostly women they don't know or have only met, but they rarely dream of the person they love.

The scenes in dreams are always somewhat fantastical and dreamlike, beyond the ability to be described in ordinary language.

Upon waking, one often cannot recall all the details of the dream.

Generally speaking, the more vivid the dream and the stronger the erotic elements, the stronger the physiological excitement, and the more significant the sense of peace felt upon waking.

However, there are sometimes cases where one has a sexual dream but does not ejaculate, or after ejaculation, one wakes up or is in a semi-awake, semi-asleep state.

For mature, unmarried men, sexual dreams are one way to relieve sexual urges, usually occurring once a week, or as often as once every two weeks or once a month.

However, many examples show that during the courtship period before marriage, there are many sexual dreams, sometimes even three times a night. During the day, there are behaviors such as hugging and kissing, and at night there are sexual dreams.

After getting married, I had far fewer of these dreams.

Many studies have found that the occurrence of sexual dreams is not significantly related to sleeping posture or the amount of urine in the bladder, but is related to physical stimulation, psychological excitement and emotional arousal before sleep, and mainly to the amount of semen in the seminal vesicles.

Sexual dreams are more common in unmarried people, especially during courtship. After marriage, this phenomenon decreases greatly or even disappears.

If a person is unmarried or works away from home for a long time, then this kind of sexual dream may continue to accompany him.

Men often experience ejaculation during sexual dreams. Generally speaking, the more realistic and vivid the dream, the stronger the physical pleasure, and the more relaxed one feels upon waking.

Sometimes, ejaculation does not occur during sexual dreams, but only after waking up. Sometimes, ejaculation is suppressed in a semi-awake state.

Some are simply sexual dreams without nocturnal emission; after waking up, the lingering pleasure remains, and one hopes to dream again.

[Masturbation] More than 90% of men masturbate at some point in their lives.

However, it must be pointed out that even for healthy people, excessive masturbation can still produce slightly harmful results.

At the same time, fear itself can be quite harmful.

If masturbation is considered a crime, then there will be a significant sense of guilt and physical harm after masturbation.

Driven by sexual urges and pleasure, many people resort to masturbation to release their sexual desires, leading to an increasing psychological burden and fear associated with masturbation.

This can become a vicious cycle. In fact, from the perspective of sexual psychology and physiology, masturbation is a way to resolve sexual urges. It is not a crime, but can prevent or reduce crime.

For individual patients who masturbate frequently, appropriate treatment may be provided.

This treatment is nothing more than a sedative and tranquilizing therapy, which helps the person fall asleep before masturbation occurs, thus reducing the frequency of masturbation.

The principle of self-regulation of sexual activity is: "Let masturbation exist, do not try to eliminate or suppress it." Nocturnal emission, wet dreams, and sexual dreams can also lead to orgasm and are basically normal sexual activities because they are another form of self-soothing behavior.

It should be said that once the psychological burden of masturbation is eliminated, the psychological burden of nocturnal emission is very easy to resolve.

Although nocturnal emission is not a purely physiological phenomenon like menstruation in women, since it involves sexual sensation and orgasm, it should still be considered a physiological phenomenon in men-"sperm overflowing when full." Having nocturnal emission several times a month is normal, so there is naturally no need to worry or have doubts.

Self-regulation of sexual activity is crucial to a person's life, and various obstacles are often caused by a lack of skill in regulating sexual activity.

[Sexual Attitudes] In modern society, although procreation remains one of the main purposes of human sexual behavior, it is no longer the only purpose of sexual behavior.

As society progresses and civilization advances, human sexual behavior is not only important for the continuation of the species, but also for satisfying the healthy needs of physiological and psychological balance. A correct attitude towards sex should have the following psychological characteristics:

(1) Human sexual function is one of the basic human instincts. It is not only about procreation, but also about physiological and psychological needs. This need is normal, just like people need to eat to satisfy their hunger.

Society must ensure that everyone has the conditions and opportunities to satisfy their sexual desires.

It acknowledges that people have the right to engage in sexual activity and dispels prejudices against sexual behavior, such as erroneous moral notions that sexual behavior is dirty, low-class, or vulgar.

(2) People should have a sense of responsibility once they engage in sexual activity.

Because sexual behavior has certain social consequences, and is not merely for the temporary satisfaction of personal sexual desire.

Every sexual act must be accountable for its social consequences.

(3) Learn about sex, understand sexual physiology and psychology, learn how to perform sexual function normally, and maintain harmony in marital sex life; master knowledge of family planning and eugenics, and give birth to healthy offspring; understand the prevention and treatment of sexual physiological and psychological disorders and diseases.

(4) You should know how to use the law to protect your sexual rights and use correct and healthy moral concepts to regulate your sexual behavior.

Whether one can maintain hygienic and healthy sexual behavior is a matter of concern for everyone, and knowledge that needs to be understood and mastered.

The following views are entirely correct regarding sexual behavior.

① People should not suppress their sexual desires too much, nor should they pursue sexual satisfaction without restraint.

Human sexual desire varies greatly from person to person, and one should not mechanically arrange one's sex life according to rules such as how many times a week or month should be sexual, or how long each sexual intercourse should last.

② Be fully prepared psychologically for the consequences of sexual behavior, and when you are unable to bear the social responsibility for sexual behavior, you must adopt a cautious and restrained attitude towards sexual behavior.

③ Everyone's sexual behavior should be conducted within the scope of the law and social morality as much as possible.

④ Practice good hygiene during sexual activity, as health is based on correct sexual hygiene knowledge, and one should consciously prevent the occurrence and spread of sexually transmitted diseases.