Sexual disharmony and the negative impacts of male self-confidence and women being too proactive.

[Sexual disharmony and male self-confidence] If you publicly insult a man by saying he is "impotent," he is very likely to fight you.

In our society, the idea that "incompetent" men are not considered real men has become a stubborn prejudice.

Male sexual ability is a representation of innate strength and a symbol of masculine power.

The most satisfying feeling a man gets from sex is the ability to "conquer" the opposite sex.

This is one of the most important sources of a man's self-confidence and self-esteem.

Otherwise, even if he were the emperor and the richest man in the world, in the eyes of other men, he would still be "not a man".

This kind of mentality and mindset, which cannot be considered normal, illustrates the fierce social competition among men.

Most men approach life with a competitive mindset.

Even in sexual activity, men want to be the best, and even crave to be extraordinary "sexual supermen."

Life shouldn't be like this.

Men should learn to face life with a calm mindset. Doing your best is enough.

It's pointless to compare yourself to others, and you can't force yourself to do something you can't do.

[Men don't like women who are too proactive] One of the main reasons why couples or partners stop having sex is that men stop making advances or women make advances too much.

If it's always the woman who's pursuing love, not only will she gradually become frustrated, but the man will also begin to lose interest in sex.

Women generally don't understand that if they pursue men more than men pursue them, the men will eventually become very passive.

Having some drive to pursue someone is good for a man, as it lets him know when is the right time to pursue a woman; conversely, if it's always the woman pursuing him, the man will lose interest and won't know why.

If a woman is too aggressive in pursuing a man, the man will gradually lose interest and motivation in doing so.

When a woman's proactive pursuit becomes too prominent, a man's passive acceptance of the opposite sex will gradually increase.

This imbalance will gradually erode both parties' passion for the marriage.

Generally speaking, men don't understand why they gradually lose passion for their partners; they mistakenly believe it's because they've lost their attractiveness.

But if a woman can express her love to him indirectly, he will regain his masculine qualities.

Most men cannot accept their partners being too proactive in sex, which will eventually cause them to lose their desire.

Some men initially enjoy women taking the initiative, but soon they lose interest in that approach and find other women more attractive.

At first, a woman who takes the initiative to pursue love may make him feel comfortable because he can avoid the pressure of rejection, but soon his enthusiasm will diminish.

Many women also complain that they don't want to always be the one to initiate love. Experts suggest that women should focus on how to make men feel comfortable pursuing them, rather than making the first move.

Of course, it's not a problem if a woman occasionally takes the initiative to make love, but it is when a woman frequently takes the initiative to make love. Men will then reduce the frequency of their advances, or even lose interest completely.

[Male Postpartum Depression] Generally speaking, postpartum depression refers to a problem only affecting women, but many studies have shown that postpartum depression is increasingly spreading to men.

Male postpartum depression can have very serious consequences, such as causing family breakdown, harming parents and children, or leading them astray, such as robbery and gambling.

The direct cause is often that the male head of the household does all sorts of unexpected things in order to solve the family's financial problems.

There are also some less noticeable changes that can lead to postpartum depression in men.

Generally speaking, women tend to devote a considerable amount of energy to their babies after childbirth, and their emotional support shifts from their husbands to the infants, thus diverting their affection and tenderness towards their husbands.

Such changes may be understandable for women, but they are a blow to men.

The only way to completely solve postpartum depression in men is to find the root cause.

Solutions include: ① The unemployed should strive to find work and resolve the issue of their economic support as soon as possible.

Sometimes, after resolving this problem, all other symptoms will disappear.

② Communicate more with relatives and friends and openly discuss your concerns.

Sometimes, a little bit of warmth is enough to save a heart that is constantly being frozen and devoured, and is falling into depravity.

③ Actively seek counseling from a psychologist to find the root cause of the problem from a psychological perspective, which can save you a lot of trouble.

If a man unfortunately suffers from postpartum depression and experiences symptoms such as constant distress, mental confusion, and loss of appetite, he should consult a doctor as soon as possible to seek solutions.

[Men feign indifference] A man is only gentle and considerate when he is alone with someone; once others are present, he immediately becomes cold and indifferent.

Which one is his true self? Does he really love you? No wonder you have these questions.

In fact, men often change their attitudes depending on their position.

Generally speaking, men are less willing to show affection to the women they love in public or in front of others because they care a lot about how others perceive them.

Most men do not consider gentleness to be a sign of masculinity. Although there has been an increase in gentle men in recent years, the idea that gentleness is weakness is still deeply ingrained. Therefore, men who care about societal perceptions are often unwilling to show their tenderness and gentleness in front of others.

This mentality, in some respects, is unique to Eastern men.

There are also male chauvinists who insist that "men must be dignified in public."

Therefore, a husband who is unwilling to hold hands with his wife while walking near home may suddenly become dictatorial and domineering when traveling to unfamiliar places; a husband who is usually as docile as a cat may become as tyrannical as a dictator when friends come to visit.

These are all defensive instincts he uses to maintain his male dignity.

[Men are lonely but refuse marriage] (1) Physiological reasons: Men come from women’s wombs and are raised by women.

The companionship of women gives their lives a sense of connection, so even without love, they still hope for marriage and a family.

However, when they get too close to women, they develop a fear that their masculine dignity and strength will be melted away by a woman's gentleness.

(2) Psychological reasons: All kinds of loneliness are actually due to a lack of security.

They crave intimacy but fear being overwhelmed by the care of others due to their immaturity, so they are reserved, guarded, and prefer to have none rather than accept the wrong one.

Men can be profound, tall, and powerful, like a big tree, but they don't have the ability to grow a forest from a single tree. Big trees are inherently lonely, and their spirit necessitates that they maintain a sufficient distance from others.

(3) Sociological reasons: From infancy, they are taught that "men are strong", and the shadow of "fearing that they are not strong" accompanies them throughout their lives.

When there are women around to complement them, they can feel powerful; but when they are alone, they lack the confidence to maintain their "power," and thus experience anxiety or even fear.

When a man loses his wariness and aversion to a woman getting close to him, it means that he has placed his hopes for alleviating loneliness on an intimate relationship between the two of them, whether physical or psychological.

Thus, in times of peace, when men and women fight, the home becomes the best battlefield. Their means of warfare are not fists and feet but willpower. The east wind cannot prevail over the west wind, which is an interesting aspect of the relationship between the sexes.