What Lies Women Like to Tell and the End of the Book

What lies do women like to tell?

Some confessions from married women or those with committed sexual partners are quite thought-provoking. They reveal a deeper meaning behind white lies: women may prefer to lie rather than confront their partners and address unmet sexual needs.

More than 30% of respondents admitted to faking orgasms. One woman said she faked an orgasm when she first initiated sexual activity, but later realized that not every sexual encounter results in an orgasm, and therefore there was no need to fake it.

Another woman said, "I think many women, including myself, have lied to men about having an orgasm. What else can we tell men? It's really embarrassing to explain to them that we can't have an orgasm unless we masturbate."

First dates are often rife with lies. She might lie to leave a lasting and positive impression, or she might lie because she knows she won't get your attention. But all these respondents who lied shared one unspoken premise: they spent the night with a complete idiot!

So when they're incredibly bored, they might say, "I wouldn't mind if we ate pizza together while watching TV." "You sound like you're in a high position." "That's interesting!"

Finally, when invited for a drink after the movie, they'll say, "No, I'm too tired, I want to go home and rest." What they really mean is: Spare me! Let me get out of this awful place!

What if you're the clueless one? How can you improve your shortcomings if you can't get a hint? Men can't understand clever excuses and rhetoric, and women are well aware of this. Here's what one person said: "Never believe a man who says he'd rather a woman politely and directly refuse; give him two or three excuses to back out, as if it were his own idea, keeping his fragile, eggshell-like self-esteem intact. Never directly and frankly tell him, 'I don't want to go out with you, thank you!' I think this kind of lie (a polite refusal) is actually well-intentioned; it's the woman, not the man, who suffers the most."

Regardless of whether this lie benefits anyone, most young people or singles tend to use this method to refuse. Almost every man has heard this kind of thing once or twice: "I'd really love to go on a trip with you, but I have to wash my hair tonight, what bad luck!"

Once a woman has a steady male partner, she'll have a whole host of lies to tell. Interview responses reveal that a woman's lies are actually compromises. The problem is, men never realize that this is a woman's compromise. On the surface, she accepts your wishes and habits, but inside she's seething with anger.

Women often say, "Of course I don't mind you going to football with your dad." But in their hearts, they're thinking, "Every damn football match is on TV!" On the surface, they say, "Of course I know you need your own space." But inside, they're thinking, "I really want to kill you."

Some women lie, saying, "No! I don't want to date other men." At the same time, they might hide their true feelings by saying, "Of course I don't mind you dating other women." In the last example, a woman says, "Don't worry, you look great." But in reality, this guy needs a haircut and a tighter tie.

Sometimes, compromise lies continue after marriage. One woman wrote down the lies she still frequently told years after her marriage:

I'd like to hear about your tennis results.

Of course, this tie and shirt go very well together.

You're already handsome without shaving.

I don't mind driving an old car.

I like to cook for you.

I will organize those things, no problem.

I even work during my lunch break.

We only talked for a short time on the phone.

(After I begged him for a month) You did a wonderful job!

• When I wanted to sleep, she said she wanted to have sex with him and said it was "very pleasurable".

The woman concluded by saying, "Most of the lies I told were simply to maintain a peaceful relationship between us."

In fact, men's insecurity is often the reason women lie. Think of those typically insecure men; their self-esteem is as thin as an eggshell, easily shattered. Some women fall under the distorted influence of these men, while others do not. Regardless, these insecure men are more or less spoiled by women's lies.

We cannot know from this informal survey how representative this woman who frequently lies is. However, she is in the minority among the respondents; most respondents indicated that they rarely lie to their husbands.

One wife said, "I feel more confident and secure as I get older. I never lie to my husband; we say what we mean. I think this is an indicator of a healthy and stable relationship!"

The results of this survey suggest that young, single women often lie when faced with insecure men and their insecurities, because lies are not as difficult to detect as the truth. As relationships mature and stabilize, lies become less effective. In fact, lying becomes increasingly dangerous at this stage, potentially destroying the foundation of trust built over many years.

This survey also found that lying is unpleasant. Various despicable images of lying women may now flash through our minds, but what should be frightening is: the lying woman is afraid of you.

What's your opinion on the claim that women lie because men encourage it? Indeed, we encourage those little, pleasurable lies between the sexes. And men have been like that for generations.

We abhor our wives or girlfriends having relationships with other men, so we encourage them to conceal their past romances; we expect our wives or girlfriends to be our greatest emotional support-the more we need someone to support us, the less we doubt whether what they say is true.

While encouraging these delightful little lies, are we also hindering the truth? And that's precisely where the danger lies. The truth is, sometimes we must also seek the truth.